Raising children with a transitioning parent

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Re: This is the wierdest thing I ever heard!!

Postby ChloePrince » Sat Jun 21, 2008 9:36 pm

cacao wrote:Transitioning parent!!! WHAT!!! Cant they just give him some man hormone for the sake of the children!! But I bet the childeren have to be proud to have a freak in the family like that!! I think if people transition it shows there weak character! :D



Cacao,

Your choice in words an inability to express your opinion in a non-confrontational intelligent manor not only reinforces your lack of education, but reveals to us (the readers) more about yourself than you probably cared to share - that being your own insecurities and deprived confidence in being an enlightened, free thinking individual.
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Re: Guy to Guy talk w/Teddy

Postby ChloePrince » Sat Jun 21, 2008 10:00 pm

StevenH1618 wrote:I can't give you all the answers, Mr. Prince, as to what to do. I can only talk to you as a guy. Every man questions his manhood in some way, shape or form at some point in his life.

Society demands a lot from men. And we as men demand a lot from ourselves. If you're like me, deep down in your gut, regardless of what your hormones are telling you, there's something else that's telling you that you've got to sacrifice your own happiness for the welfare of your family.

That voice deep down in your soul is your conscience, it's the soul of a man, not a woman. I don't know what it's like to go through what you are going through. I know there is an Christian organization, I believe they're called Exodus International, that deals with these kinds of circumstances. I hope the best for you.

I don't know if you've made any decisions, or what else you may be going through, but as for me I count it a great honor to be a man, and I would not take lightly the idea of losing that honor--even if it somehow made my life easier.

Temporary pleasures are a vanity. In the heart of every good man is the desire to leave an honorable legacy. And the easy way may not be as easy as they say. I sense that you want to leave an honorable legacy. I hope this message was encouraging, and I will pray for you.



LOL, pray for me??... lo!!!

Steve, you poor ignorant, 9 to 5, white republican drone... You represent largely what is wrong in todays modern faith society. Your reply is nothing but pure conservative Rhetoric, which is made obvious to us (the readers with open minds and hearts) by use of your "knee jerk" bible thumping, condescending excuse of convenience which all so called "perfect Christians" like yourself lean on ONLY in times where logic, science and common sense reasoning fail them to be able to sway the masses to their way of thinking in order to restore the "all's well" routine in Jesus land USA. The real truth is people like myself scare the hell out of you because I prove fallible your 2 car, 2 kid 2 vacation a year, chey' whitey system for which all people must pass or fail (That being, according to you) ANYONE that rocks the system for which people must pass or fail by, IS YOUR ENEMY, and therefore, you use JESUS as some sort of moral trump card.

That is the problem with people like you - You give GOOD Christians like me, a bad name. Your so arrogant to filter MY life through the frame work of your own life and therefore with out regard to ANYTHING I originally testified to in the letter to Mrs Marilyn, you offer up a Fire and Brim stone half baked response like I am your little boy caught with his sisters under wear on? Please.... get a clue and educate yourself.

I have Klinefelters you tool! Do you even know what that is? It means I am intersexed. Of course you don't know what that is because it is not taught in the bible... THAT would require REAL education outside the box of what your faith (or part of your faith you chose to conveniently preach from) dictates as a Man or Woman.

Do society a favor - DO NOT SPREAD your propaganda here or anywhere else. This is the year 2008... We are a scientific, man on the moon, instant answers, DNA testing, OJ acquitting, Free thinking society. your "morals" and "Values" are nice sentiments, but are nothing more than just that - Sentiments. The facts are clear here, that being, I am an XXY Intersex Person, unlike you who is an XY Male or a genetic XX Female.

I am no more a "Male" than a mix bread Half White, Half Black person is 100% one or the other. I am a mosaic of both genders by way of chromosome count... So get educated before you poison other readers with your hyperbol nonsense and all encompassing statements that we are ALL the same - cause WE ARE NOT.

FYI: As of May 2008, I under went a Sex Change. I am completely and physically and legally a female. I am happy to report that it was the best decision of my life and I am finally happy and feel complete. My wife has chosen to stand beside and support me. My children ARE proud of me and understand and support me as well - AS do my employer, friends, family and CHURCH!

No no no... you don't need to pray for me - it is "I" that will pray for you and others like you who chose to use God as a shield to protect themselves while spreading their propaganda of their OWN ideals... not Christian Idea's. I am a Christian and Christians do not judge - they accept and embrace all of Gods creations... for which being an Intersexed person I am... and as far as my choices on how I live my life go... well, if you are a Christian, then that is NOT up to you to judge either... it is up to you to show love and respect and allow God to judge.

Read about my journey at www.ChloePrince.com if you want REAL answers.
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We are all bisexual

Postby bill » Mon Nov 30, 2009 10:45 pm

We all have both male and female sexual hormones and chemicals in our bodies. GOD must have did this for a reason :!: :?: :idea: :arrow: :roll: :oops: 8) :arrow: It is not for us to judge GOD or HIS decisions for us. So we must not judge others situations, but instead help charitably. Feel no guilt but love yourself. I have always accepted myself as I am a GODLIKE person who accepts his assigned bisexuality. To judge me as not a real man would be foolhardy. All real men accept themselves as they are and say GOD made me as I am HE has already passed judgment upon me. It is for others to accept GODS judgment not I. This goes for females and others seeking relationships and in relationships. DO NOT GIVE UP ON YOUR FRIENDS AND FAMILY-SUPPORT THEM THROUGH ALL THEIR TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS OF THEIR LIFE'S ODYSSEY :shock: :D 8) :!: :?: :idea: :arrow:

ENOUGH SAID :roll: :roll: :roll:
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Postby JO 753 » Tue Jul 06, 2010 6:58 am

I find that '1 in 500' stat hard to believe. That would mean there are about 175,000 people in America with it.

You seem to be taking it well, in spite of the family problem. A little humor can help. Tell your kids you want to be as transparent as possible to help them see things clearly!
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Re: Raising children with a transitioning parent

Postby msaintpc » Tue May 24, 2011 9:42 pm

Marilyn wrote:From Teddy Prince of Jackson Township, Ohio:
When I met my wife eight years ago, I was a normal, everyday guy, but with a closet passion for being girlie. I have never been macho or even masculine. Also, I have a high voice and many feminine features. My wife accepted me for the way I am.

In recent years, I noticed my body starting to change, so I went to the doctor, who sent me to a specialist. The specialist diagnosed a condition called Klinefelter's Syndrome, which is a chromosomal abnormality. Not only has my body gone through change, but so has my mind. Things that used to be important to me, no longer are. They've been replaced with more feminine thoughts. You can imagine how my wife feels about this. I had always wondered why I felt the way I did, and now I finally have the answer.

So: Why am I writing? I no longer can hide who I am, and I wish to live openly. I am both man and woman, and I choose to present feminine. But I want to stay married and raise my children. My wife and I are in counseling. I'm writing to you for advice on how to help my children understand. I want them to still feel loved, despite my change. I don't want them to feel like their dad has disappeared, yet I don't wish to compromise my personal happiness either.

My children are the most important thing in the world to me, and I don't want to let them down. What can I do to make things work?


Here's what you can do for your children. Because you have the basic body structure of a male, I believe you should dress like a man, but a feminine one. To the world and to your children, this will be an honest statement of who you are. Try hard to be a fine father to them in every way. This will help them feel secure, and they'll appreciate the effort, even if only subconsciously, at least while they're still very young.

As soon as they're old enough to understand, tell them about your physical condition and your feelings in as much detail as their age will allow. But be sure to tell them way before the age when all children are embarrassed by their parents. And when that day comes, try not to take it too personally! Few parents escape being objects of pre-teen and teenage mortification.

I think you can make this work with the children whether you stay married or not. Kids are wonderful about loving good-hearted parents, regardless of their marital status.
I just stopped here for a drink of water. The irony is that on this world of water, one quickly learns that he must quench his thirst with sand.
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Postby msaintpc » Tue May 24, 2011 9:58 pm

Cocao,

I think your comment was void of useful info in this particular discussion.
Ms Vos Savant clearly laid it down the way it should be intelligently approached. Pay heed to real wisdom and leave denigration to souls such as yourself.
I just stopped here for a drink of water. The irony is that on this world of water, one quickly learns that he must quench his thirst with sand.
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Postby msaintpc » Tue Nov 08, 2011 4:37 am

msaintpc wrote:Cocao,

I think your comment was void of useful info in this particular discussion.
Ms Vos Savant clearly laid it down the way it should be intelligently approached. Pay heed to real wisdom and leave denigration to souls such as yourself.
I'm sorry you misinterpreted my comment. In actuality, I'm praising Ms. Savant. Had she actually been responding to my comment, she would have been much more tactful, and actually would have understood my commentary. Please do not flatter yourselves by pretending to understand my former statement. In essence, I said she was much smarter than the people working for her.
I just stopped here for a drink of water. The irony is that on this world of water, one quickly learns that he must quench his thirst with sand.
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